My Glamorous Mom Life
Friday, January 27, 2017
4 Things NOT To Say To A Mom
Here lately I’ve gotten so tired and frustrated
with myself and the things people say just do not help. Can you feel me? I mean
I already feel like I fail at most things, like I can’t catch up to the 20
million items on my to do list, like I will never fit back into a size 2 or 3
(1 is out of the question at this point) and yet people seem to think they know
what to say when they should really keep quiet. So, let’s jump into my list of
things you shouldn’t say to a mom (even if you think you know exactly how I
should live my life). Some may be specific to a stay at home mom but I will specify.
I also encourage you to add to the list in the comments if you have some of
your own.
1. “Wow you sure have taken on some weight”
Okay, let me start by saying do not mention
weight AT ALL to a mother, especially a new mother. I cannot not tell you how
many times the first thing someone says to me is “wow you’ve gained weight” or “you’re
not skinny anymore”, one of my least favorites is the one meant to be a
compliment but instead only makes me feel worse “ You look better with the
weight you’ve gained”. STOP. Pause. Hold up. I’m sorry but I didn’t know
unhealthy was the new “look”. You see, I like to be fit and healthy and this
body I got going on is not that. I already hate the way I look so why even
mention it? I’m well aware that I am no longer a size 1 thank you, I do have a
mirror. (I’m not that poor ;p ) On a side note if you are pregnant and EVERYONE
tells you to eat more and eat for two, DO NOT LISTEN. Pregnancy is not an
excuse for gluttony. Eat healthy, take your vitamins, and don’t be like me and
listen to stupid advice. (Bonus what not to say to a pregnant woman lol) Rant
over.
2. “Do you ever clean your house?”
This one is especially aggravating because they
do not live in your home so it’s really no concern to them. But, a lot of times
mothers are too busy wiping noses and changing diapers, feeding babies, staying
up with a teething child, ect. To even stop and fold laundry or do dishes.
Also, sometimes you have to decide do you clean the kitchen or play with your
baby? Do you wash clothes or spend time with your husband? So please do not
remind me I have 20 billion things to do, I already know.
3. “Why don’t you throw your kid in day care
and get a job? Things would be easier and your kid could socialize.” (stay at
home mom specific)
Can I just roll my eyes 20 times right now?
Like, I’m doing what I was created to do, my responsibility. A mother’s “job”
is to raise her children, to take care of them, to teach them. It is ONLY the
parents responsibility to do those things. Who better than the parents to teach
their kids what is right, how to live, and act. I believe God created mothers
for that purpose. So MY JOB is exactly what I’m doing and it’s the BEST job I
can have. Also, I’m not about to throw my kid off on people who don’t know my
child or truly deeply care about him, and I’m not going to throw him in a room
with a bunch of kids who’s parents do not teach their kids how to act. (yes I
know, I’m very strongly opinionated, you don’t have to remind me) And my child doesn’t
have to be in a classroom to socialize. My child can have friends at church and
when he’s older with a homeschool group, he does and can socialize. While kids
are in a classroom all day, my kid can be learning outside in the environment,
he can have the freedom to go anywhere and do anything. I do not believe that
would be holding him back, holding him back would be throwing in a classroom
for hours. So please, next time you think you know how I should live my life
and raise my child why don’t you keep quiet and just focus on your own, because
we can figure out what’s best for US without everyone’s opinions. (don’t get
all offended, just how I personally feel.)
4. “Do you work?” or “Where do you work now?”
When I am asked this I seriously just stare at
the person and think “I have a child! YES I work, I work 24/7 and get no sick
days!!!!”. Of course what comes out of my mouth is, “I’m a stay at home mom”.
Some people get it and say “Oh girl that is a JOB.” Others give that look like
you’re lower than them or not living up to your potential, lol or like your
just plain crazy. Why do people not understand that being a stay at home mom is
a job, it’s what we are SUPPOSED to do. We are to raise up our children. Even
if you aren’t a stay at home mom, you’re pretty much still working that mom
job, so that’s two jobs. Please do not ask mothers that question like that. It’s
just insulting. Quit making us feel like we aren’t amounting to anything when
in reality we are doing something incredible. God has blessed us with these
precious children and we should be honored to be the ones to raise them up for
Christ.
I will stop at four, and I hope you will add
some of your own in the comments. I needed to vent and I thought what better
way? So vent yours in the comments and we can all share in this struggle of motherhood.
Keep being glamorous and always remember
Proverbs 31,
Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.
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