My Glamorous Mom Life
Raise your hand if you have EVER felt like you completely fail
at this whole parenting thing. If you didn’t raise your hand your either lazy
or a liar. Period. (Or overly conceded.) When you become a parent its new, it’s
not something you really practice before hand or something a class is going to
prepare you for. Parenting is one of those learn as you go type of things. So,
it is completely natural and I’d say normal to feel like a failure because you’re
going to 1, not know what you’re doing and 2, you’re going to mess up and make
mistakes. The only way to get better at something is to mess up, get back up,
learn from it and try harder. Another reason we tend to feel like failures is
we compare ourselves and our children to others. YOU CAN’T DO THAT. It’s not
fair to you or your children because little “Tommy” is a completely different
child with a completely different thinking system, he’s not going to learn,
act, or respond the same way little “Jimmy” is. So if little Jimmy is singing
his abc’s and little Tommy just figured out how to even say mommy then guess
what, that’s okay. You haven’t failed your child because someone else’s child
is “ahead” (I hate that statement) of your own child. Your child just learns
differently, and that’s okay. (Also maybe little Jimmy has those freak parents
who teach their child math at 1 or something) Now, when you start comparing how
you parent your child verses someone else it’s unfair to you because you and
your child are completely different people. You have different schedules, beliefs,
thinking systems, and blah blah blah. No two people are the same and you cannot
base your ways to parent on other parents because we all are in a learning
process and all think and work differently. That doesn’t mean you can’t ask for
advice or try something someone else is doing, it just means you don’t have to
copy everyone else and you don’t have to be moving at the same speed everyone
else is moving at. You will always find someone you think is better than
yourself, so you’re kinda setting yourself up to feel like a failure. My whole
point is this, you are going to make mistakes, you are not perfect, we all need
Jesus, we all need Grace, so just trust in Him and keep getting back up when
you fall. It’s a learning process and in the midst of learning you will fail
and have to try again sometimes. Trust in the Lord and let Him guide you and
keep on praying for your children and keep on learning. That’s what I intend to
do. J
