Failure Is Part Of Learning

My Glamorous Mom Life

Raise your hand if you have EVER felt like you completely fail at this whole parenting thing. If you didn’t raise your hand your either lazy or a liar. Period. (Or overly conceded.) When you become a parent its new, it’s not something you really practice before hand or something a class is going to prepare you for. Parenting is one of those learn as you go type of things. So, it is completely natural and I’d say normal to feel like a failure because you’re going to 1, not know what you’re doing and 2, you’re going to mess up and make mistakes. The only way to get better at something is to mess up, get back up, learn from it and try harder. Another reason we tend to feel like failures is we compare ourselves and our children to others. YOU CAN’T DO THAT. It’s not fair to you or your children because little “Tommy” is a completely different child with a completely different thinking system, he’s not going to learn, act, or respond the same way little “Jimmy” is. So if little Jimmy is singing his abc’s and little Tommy just figured out how to even say mommy then guess what, that’s okay. You haven’t failed your child because someone else’s child is “ahead” (I hate that statement) of your own child. Your child just learns differently, and that’s okay. (Also maybe little Jimmy has those freak parents who teach their child math at 1 or something) Now, when you start comparing how you parent your child verses someone else it’s unfair to you because you and your child are completely different people. You have different schedules, beliefs, thinking systems, and blah blah blah. No two people are the same and you cannot base your ways to parent on other parents because we all are in a learning process and all think and work differently. That doesn’t mean you can’t ask for advice or try something someone else is doing, it just means you don’t have to copy everyone else and you don’t have to be moving at the same speed everyone else is moving at. You will always find someone you think is better than yourself, so you’re kinda setting yourself up to feel like a failure. My whole point is this, you are going to make mistakes, you are not perfect, we all need Jesus, we all need Grace, so just trust in Him and keep getting back up when you fall. It’s a learning process and in the midst of learning you will fail and have to try again sometimes. Trust in the Lord and let Him guide you and keep on praying for your children and keep on learning. That’s what I intend to do. J

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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