We All Need Laughter

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The other day I was busy doing something at the computer and I could hear my son playing with his toys. He was in his room with the baby gate up. I was hearing him with all his toys and didn’t think anything of it, until it finally hit me, why am I hearing his toys on a hard floor surface when he has CARPET!? I jump up saying “what in the world is my child doing??” He is in the middle of throwing everything in his room onto the floor outside of his baby gate. There was a mountain of toys!!! I laughed, (of course) but then I realized how aggravating that is, because guess who has to clean that up? If your guess was Me, then you are correct. Yes, I did manage to get him to understand putting his trucks in his toy box so that was something, but he isn’t quite to the whole cleaning up well thing. I kept telling him “it’s not fair to mommy to make these messes because you don’t clean it up.” Well, I do think that’s true, but the poor little guy just thought it was fun and funny lol. He was just being a kid and doing something new to him. I got a picture that I will insert and yeah it’s funny. Sometimes, it’s just good to laugh, maybe not while your child is watching if you’re trying to teach them not to do something, but take the time to laugh. Kids do some funny things and instead of being super uptight, just enjoy these funny moments. It’s important for anyone to have laughter, and be able to enjoy moments even when you may be frustrated because you have to clean up after everyone else. IT’S OKAY. Life will go on. ;) I love to laugh, me and my husband both. Sometimes the things we say and laugh about are just plain out stupid and silly but it’s so enjoyable. Our son Tobias, he’s a funny guy and he likes being funny. I love that about him and I always want him to make others laugh and smile because the world needs more laughter and smiling! If a mountain of toys makes him laugh or is funny then that’s great as long as he learns to make that mountain in HIS room lol ;) . Just last night he was wearing a shirt with a hood on it, I took his favorite stuffed animal, Mickey mouse and put it in his hood so Mickey can go everywhere with him, I didn’t realize that it was the funniest thing ever until Tobias laughed and laughed and LAUGHED! It was a great memory for me! He loves funny, and funny is so good, good for your mind and your heart! Take time to laugh and be funny, especially with your kids! They need to laugh just as much as you do!!

 

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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Taking Care Of You!

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Sometimes we moms can be so busy taking care of everything and everyone else that we forget to take care of ourselves. Okay maybe not actually forget, but we neglect ourselves or form unhealthy habits. During my pregnancy which was almost 2 years ago now, I formed some really bad habits and listened to some really bad advice. I use to be really healthy and take time to really take care of myself. I exercised regularly, ate great, and just made sure I felt great. Fast forward to now and those bad habits during pregnancy have not left, I had a nerve issue in my back and leg so I couldn’t walk sometimes or it was very hard so I got used to be fairly lazy, I was always told that I was eating for two so now I eat more than one person should. I always would eat what I craved, so now I go for that unhealthy thing I’m craving that a few years ago I would have never eaten. So what now? Well, as hard as it is, I have to make a decision for myself that only I can make. I have to decide to work my butt off and get my body healthy again. It’s been a on and off again relationship for me these past two years. I’ll do good, then bad again. But, as a song in a children’s movie says “I wanna try even though I can fail”. Yes, I may never lose the weight I want to, I may never wear the clothes I want to, but, I can get my energy back, I can lose some weight, I hopefully can start getting the nutrition I need and so on. Some days will be good, easy, and others I will fail. But the awesome thing about failing is you can get back up and try again.      

You can always take steps towards improvement. If you are like me and not really truly taking care of you, well then get up and make a change. Follow you some fitness or health pages, get you an app for logging workouts and food, buy healthy, get on Pinterest and find every healthy recipe you can, and get up and move! Any step you take is progress. Set goals and work towards finding your “healthy”. My body needs something different than yours; you need something different than someone else. Getting healthy isn’t always just about losing weight; you can be skinny as a stick and be super unhealthy. Just take care of yourself!      

Here are a few things I encourage everyone to do no matter what your situation.

1. Drink lots of water. This is something I need to work on a lot, but drinking enough water can improve your health tremendously. I t can help with headaches, hair loss, energy, appetite and so on.

2. Go for a walk or run. Adding in some form of exercise is always a good thing, don’t overdo it or anything but just get up and move. Anything more than what you are doing is improvement.

3. Take time to do your nails or your hair. It won’t actually improve your health per say but it will improve your mood and can help you destress. Anything adding less stress is good for your health.

4. Eat less or no fried foods. This is a major thing that can help you get on the right track eating wise. Let’s face it; fried foods just aren’t good for us, just our taste buds.

5. Pray. Your Spiritual health is way more important. Just trust God and ask Him to help you make good decisions.

6. Remember that you are your children’s example. That will make you think twice before getting that 2^nd, or 3^rd, or even 4^th plate at the buffet.

7. Apps or Fitbits. I personally started using a Fitbit and it’s been a great reminder for me to be more active. It also helps me keep track of everything. An app I was using before the Fitbit is My Fitness Pal and it’s awesome, you can log food and workouts and set goals for your weight.

 

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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31 Things I'm Thankful For

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Hey! Wow, its been a while! Do I say that every time? Lol I can hardly remember to write on my blog much less do the whole “What your thankful for thing” during November. The reason for this post is 1: I want to be more consistent and write, and 2: I’d like to share what I’m thankful for but there’s no way I would remember to post it every day. So in today’s blog post I’d like to just simply list a lot of the things I’m thankful for and I hope you will share some of your list in the comments! J 1 Thessalonians 5:18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

(in no particular order, except the 1^st 4 are my top)

1. My salvation through Jesus Christ. <3

2. God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit.

3. My husband Mark.

4. My amazing son Tobias J

5. Every single time I see Tobias smile.

6. Coffee. LOTS of coffee.

7. Board games, video games.

8. Church, the whole church and also my church family.

9. Crock Pots.

10. Frozen meals for the rescue. ;)

11. God working in my life and heart.

12. The mission trip to the Well House.

13. Everything I need I have and more.

14. Two words, Christian Rap.

15. Christian romance novels.

16. Good drivers. I know, they are few and far in between.

17. Prayer.

18. Forgiveness.

19. People that will help when you truly need it.

20. Coupons.

21. Text messaging for the win.

22. Funny stuff.

23. Happy memories.

24. My sons laugh.

25. Cute boots and clothes!

26. Mexican food.

27. A good home.

28. Star Wars.

29. Friends.

30. Potato peeler because I hate peeling potatoes. Lol

31. Family.

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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Failure Is Part Of Learning

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Raise your hand if you have EVER felt like you completely fail at this whole parenting thing. If you didn’t raise your hand your either lazy or a liar. Period. (Or overly conceded.) When you become a parent its new, it’s not something you really practice before hand or something a class is going to prepare you for. Parenting is one of those learn as you go type of things. So, it is completely natural and I’d say normal to feel like a failure because you’re going to 1, not know what you’re doing and 2, you’re going to mess up and make mistakes. The only way to get better at something is to mess up, get back up, learn from it and try harder. Another reason we tend to feel like failures is we compare ourselves and our children to others. YOU CAN’T DO THAT. It’s not fair to you or your children because little “Tommy” is a completely different child with a completely different thinking system, he’s not going to learn, act, or respond the same way little “Jimmy” is. So if little Jimmy is singing his abc’s and little Tommy just figured out how to even say mommy then guess what, that’s okay. You haven’t failed your child because someone else’s child is “ahead” (I hate that statement) of your own child. Your child just learns differently, and that’s okay. (Also maybe little Jimmy has those freak parents who teach their child math at 1 or something) Now, when you start comparing how you parent your child verses someone else it’s unfair to you because you and your child are completely different people. You have different schedules, beliefs, thinking systems, and blah blah blah. No two people are the same and you cannot base your ways to parent on other parents because we all are in a learning process and all think and work differently. That doesn’t mean you can’t ask for advice or try something someone else is doing, it just means you don’t have to copy everyone else and you don’t have to be moving at the same speed everyone else is moving at. You will always find someone you think is better than yourself, so you’re kinda setting yourself up to feel like a failure. My whole point is this, you are going to make mistakes, you are not perfect, we all need Jesus, we all need Grace, so just trust in Him and keep getting back up when you fall. It’s a learning process and in the midst of learning you will fail and have to try again sometimes. Trust in the Lord and let Him guide you and keep on praying for your children and keep on learning. That’s what I intend to do. J

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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What Every Girl Needs To Hear

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This world tells us lies EVERY day. As women and young girls we are told from the get go to look a certain way, be a certain way, act a certain way, wear a certain size, be a certain color, have a certain type of hair, have sex if you want a guy to love you, party if you want friends, cuss if you want to be cool and so much more. The list goes on and on and we listen to it don’t we? You may think you don’t but all these things affect the way you see yourself. You compare yourself to other women. You feel ugly, worthless, and not enough. I am here to tell you ITS ALL A LIE. You were made by a perfect God to serve a perfect God. You were made to be beautiful in Him, to let his light and love shine through out of your heart. Nothing this world offers will ever make you feel or be truly beautiful. Nothing will satisfy except the Lord Jesus Christ. We weren’t made to look like and be like this world and what the world tells us to be, we were made to be like Jesus! Do not let this world define who you are because you will only lose your entire self. Give your life to Christ and become a new man, you will know true beauty and true peace. Be in the world but not of it, be different, be lovely in an ugly world.

Quit putting trash into your mind; quit listening to all the lies. You need encouragement, not to be torn down. This world will bog you down, but the Lord Jesus said His yoke is light. Trust in Him and believe in Him, follow Him. Jesus will change your life and you will never want to go back. Let Christ define you. Truth. Not lies. Teach your daughters what you learn, teach them to be who God made them to be. You truly are beautiful, beautiful in Christ, in His love. Let it shine through you. Let everything you do show His love to this nasty, hateful world. Be a light in the darkness. Quit trying to look like the darkness and blend in with it. BE BOLDLY BEAUTIFUL IN LOVE.

“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Jesus speaking in Matthew 11:28-30

Ephesians 2:4-6, Ephesians 5:8, Philippians 1:21, 1 Peter 3:3-4, Titus 2:3-5, Matthew 5:16, Matthew 5:14, Ephesians 4:22-24, Proverbs 3:5-6, John 3:16-17, Matthew 11:28-30

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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A Little Motivation

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I have missed this blog SOOOO MUCH!! Today I will be sharing why I haven’t posted and where I have been and where I am now.

The past couple months and weeks I have been busy and also in a major rut. (we all have those times, right?) I haven’t felt very “glamorous” at all. I was not taking any time to take care of myself, I wasn’t even doing my makeup for the longest time. (whaaat?) I spent my days watching Heartland, YouTube, playing World Of Warcraft, and taking care of my son. I have also recently moved, went on 2 and a half trips, and just been stressed with all the busyness.

Don’t get me wrong, there have been plenty of things and topics I’ve wanted to write about but I just have been lazy. Not going to lie. But, through prayer and motivation I’ve been getting way better, I’ve started doing things I enjoy like reading, doing my makeup, and working out again. I feel like just taking the time to do what I love and enjoy makes me a better wife, mother, and friend. I have way more energy and am for sure getting out of this rut we all go through at some point. I do want to do a more detailed post about what it takes to feel refreshed, take care of yourself, and keep you motivated; So that will come later and will most likely be super long. Maybe. Idk. (let’s face it, we all know I have tons to say and be opinionated on ;p ) For now I will just share a few key points to being the best glamorous, refreshed, and motivated mom you can be. These are things that work for me, so maybe I can help someone else out by sharing them. This is most likely a preview to a more in depth post later.

1. This is the most IMPORTANT one there is, take time each morning, before your kids are up if possible, to read the Word of God and pray. This is so important. You cannot be the best Mother or Wife without having your relationship with Jesus where it should be. Continue growing in your Faith; spend time praying and sharing your heart with God. Trust Him and let Him lead you.

2. Find/make time to do something just for you, something that relaxes you and you genuinely enjoy. It might be reading, running, makeup, movies, video games, or just whatever. Make sure you do it! Don’t put it before your children or anything, but spend time doing what you love and don’t feel guilty about it. I went to see Beauty And The Beast all by myself and I felt a thousand times better afterwards because I took time for me.

3. Be glamorous. Pamper yourself. Get up and do your hair and makeup girl even if all you’re doing that day is chores around the house. You’ll feel like a million bucks. It will boost your mood which I’m sure your family will appreciate. ;)

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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Just A Mom With Anxiety...

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I have seen so many moms who do so well at not holding their children so close to them 24/7 and smothering them with their protection. I’’ve seen them be able to leave them with a family member or friend and go out with their husband or just go out and have some “them” time. I’ve also seen moms who can leave their children at daycare and go work or just have some time away. I on the other hand can’t hardly leave my son with my husband for me to go buy groceries (even though Mark is a wonderful father), I can’t stand not being with my son to make sure he’s okay, to watch over him, to make sure he’s not watching some movie he shouldn’t or eating who knows what off the floor. When I’m not around I can’t be in control of what he hears, sees, or does. In my mind I am his mother and the only person who knows what’s best for him. I think there can be an extreme with either type of person I just described but, one thing for sure is you need to not smother and you need to not leave them all the time. There is a balance, but how do you find that balance when you are a control freak with major anxiety issues?? My honest answer, I don’t know. I can pray about it, trust God with my son whether I’m around or not. I’d say that’s the first step. Ultimately God is in control, so I have to realize that I cannot control everything that happens, but I can trust the One who does control everything. I’ve got the whole not dropping my son off on everyone and leaving him part down, but the taking time away and for myself part not so much.

 

With anxiety a lot of times it’s just a mind game, (at least for me anyways). I have to go through each possible “bad thing” or “bad outcome” that goes through my mind and tell myself why it won’t happen, or why it will be okay. I ask Mark a thousand times each night before bed “is Tobias okay? Is anything over his face?” not because I didn’t believe Mark the first time but because I am reassuring my mind that HE IS OKAY! Poor Mark is trying to be patient with my peppering questions lol. This is something I have to pray about A LOT. The only way I know to get past all this anxiety and fear is to pray, let go, and get away sometimes and show myself everything will be okay. That’s hard though. Easier said than done. I’m sure part of it has to do with it being my first child but then I remember that wait; I’ve always been like this! I’ve always been this way, because I have to be in control! Ask my husband, lol I always have to know everything and decide everything, even if Mark decides and makes me feel like I decided. Control, control, control! But in reality the only thing we really control is our decisions. I want to make the decision to trust everything to God, not to worry.

 

Now, I know I have things to work on, most people do, and there is always a loving way or nice way to say that maybe I should take some time away or time with my husband. I’ve had people say those things in a way that does not offend me whatsoever. I’m always up for someone else’s perspective or opinion, as long as it’s done nicely. I have also had people treat me like I have a disease because of how I take care of my son. Yes I have anxiety and yes I’m very protective of my son and I know this and there’s nothing wrong with it. I just need to work on all the things mentioned above, and I know that. Treating me like I have a disease or being rude about it doesn’t exactly encourage me very much. It only makes me angry. I’d imagine others would feel the same. It’s like when my anxiety is bad and someone tells me to chill or not to worry, it’s not just THAT simple. Easy to say, hard to do. So be mindful of how you are trying to help someone and be loving and considerate. Sometimes that’s easier said than done too lol. (Trust me; I need to work on that one too.) And sometimes, the person with the issue has heard it a thousand times and just doesn’t need to hear it again. A little consideration and kindness can go a long way. Can we just take a moment to thank the people who are loving and kind when giving their opinion or perspective! :)  You guys rock!

 

So where do you fit in here? Are you over protective or easy about dropping the kids off ALL the time? Hopefully either way you can find a balance that works with your family, as I’m trying to find mine.

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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Disney: Is It Really "That" Bad?

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Disney seems to get a lot of flak for their movies, especially princess movies. It is said they give too high expectations for men to live up to and little girls dreams they can’t achieve. I would like to discuss why I think they are wrong and why I will allow my kids to watch Disney movies. Don’t get me wrong Disney doesn’t always get everything right but there are some great movies that you can turn into some deep (as deep as you can with a kid) conversations. There are lessons to be learned, and discussed which I think is awesome. Obviously these will be my opinions and you may think differently. You also may notice that certain movies aren’t mentioned, that’s either because I don’t see that much to learn from it, I don’t like it, I haven’t seen it in a while to remember it well or I just haven’t watched it.

 

Jasmine and Aladdin. Jasmine is a beautiful princess not wanting to marry for benefit but for love. Okay isn’t that most of us? Aladdin is a homeless thief who eventually lies to Jasmine for her to love him. What Aladdin doesn’t know is she cared for him before she “thought” he was a prince. She loved him for who he was, not his circumstances. He was far from perfect yet she loved him anyway. Usually you see this the other way around right? The perfect prince loves the princess for who she is, I happen to like the reverse roles in this one. I think Disney does a wonderful job of showing how you can love an imperfect person just as they are which can actually lead to a discussion of how Jesus loves us even though we are imperfect. I know that probably wasn’t Disney’s goal but you can definitely have some deep discussions with your kids if you really try.

 

 Mulan and Shang. Personally one of my favorite Disney movies is Mulan. (Probably because I have similar characteristics as her like opening my mouth when I should probably keep quiet lol) Mulan is what a woman wasn’t supposed to be in those times in her culture, she was a strong woman who was not afraid to stand up to any man and speak her mind. Not wanting her Father to die in war she disguises herself as a man and takes his place. (Okay can we just get an applaud here? She is so stinking awesome) She meets Shang because he is her captain. So, obviously she is lying to him, and being a dishonor because females were not supposed to go into battle. Women would be killed for such actions she took. She was brave and strong, but not what she was “supposed” to be. Shang only wanted to please his Father, he could be a bit angry sometimes but I would be to with a bunch of soldiers not doing their job right and acting out. He finds Mulan’s true identity and leaves her on a snowy mountain alone. (With the exception of her little dragon Mushu and a horse). Basically she probably would have died if she wasn’t so bomb. Then when she warns him of the bad guys he doesn’t believe her. So yeah in this case the guy is super handsome and really awesome except for a few anger issues and distrust. But, even though Mulan was everything she wasn’t “supposed” to be and she lied, he forgave her and loved her anyway. It’s all about loving someone for who they are, even though they make mistakes because we are ALL going to make mistakes.

 

Belle and the Beast. Okay so I do really like this movie but am I the only one who thinks Belle is a freak for falling in love with an actual “beast”? Um yeah I’m pretty sure that’s wrong. But anyway he was a man so I can get over the weirdness. This movie basically screams “I love you for who are, no matter what.” Belle is the town nerd and considered weird yet very beautiful. Beast is a man turned beast by curse, who is angry and mean. We do see his soft side come out though when he starts falling for Belle. He loved her, just as she was nerdy and all. He even gave her his library. Belle (for some reason) loved him just as he was, angry and all, furry and all. But it shows the point that under someone’s anger is a person with a heart and sometimes you just need to show them love to break that wall down.

 

Rapunzel and Flynn Rider aka Eugene. We all know Rapunzel is a beautiful princess with a great heart, wonderful personality, and many talents. She is obviously very ignorant because of her overly sheltered life, but that’s not really that huge of a fault. Flynn Rider on the other hand is a thief who has seen the bad and ugly in the world and lived it. He tries to flirt his way out of her hair and trick her so he doesn’t have to bother with helping her. He soon starts to care, and then love her. He puts his thievery days behind him and sets to make a life with her. He also saves her life and returns her to her true parents. Even though they are complete opposites she loves him and he loves her. She doesn’t hold his past over his head; she just loves the man he is now. I think we can all take something away from that. And I really don’t see how this is setting too high of expectations for men? I mean I don’t know about you but I’d rather not be with a thief, of course I’d forgive him for it but that’s not the point here is it?

 

Cinderella and Prince charming. Prince charming is just what his name is, yes he’s a prince, and yes he’s charming, but that doesn’t mean he is perfect. He has his own battles he’s facing with wanting to please his father and wanting to do right by the kingdom, and also wanting to follow his heart. He doesn’t care that Cinderella is not rich or a princess, he just loves her. Cinderella of course is a beautiful young lady forced into basically being her stepmother’s slave after her father dies. But she is kind and soft spoken, forgiving. Even though both here seem perfect and no one can live up to them, if you really look into it, they are just two people going through battles and pain and coming out even stronger and kinder. I see this as a great lesson. Loving someone for who they are, forgiving those who hurt you. This is not high expectations at all; it is exactly what we should be doing. Loving and forgiving.

 

Maleficent. There’s not a guy’s name there because well, this movie basically made all men useless.(okay not exactly for that part lol) This one doesn’t tie in with giving men high expectations but it does show forgiveness and redemption and I just love this movie. Maleficent holds on to bitterness and anger after her “true love” cut off her wings and hurt her. She then curses his daughter. Yet, she starts to love the girl and then regrets her curse. She tries and tries to stop it but she can’t. She is sorry for her actions and wants to be free of it. Her tears and kiss on Aurora ends up being “true loves kiss” and breaks the curse. No man was even needed lol so that’s a bummer but it shows just how we can repent, we can end our bitterness and ask for forgiveness. We can turn from the anger. I know I’m probably one of few who really saw this in this movie but I thought it was awesome how it showed we can turn from our wrong ways and we don’t have to continue in them. Once again not Disney’s target but you can have some really deep discussions with your kids after watching this movie.

 

Pocahontas and John Smith. I really like this movie and love Pocahontas. She is beautiful and has a heart for adventure. Her and John Smith are so different and come from completely different places and background. Actually they are supposed to be enemies. But, they don’t hold the hate for each other as everyone else does. They love each other and want to help the Indians and whites to reconcile, not to fight. I also love how it puts the point out there that the whites were being savages not just Indians because they were acting so wrongly. That’s another topic all together though and this isn’t history class lol. They both wanted different things than their “tribes” wanted. Of course, John Smith is handsome, strong, kind, a soldier, brave, and just great. But of course he was sneaking away and putting everyone in danger just as Pocahontas so even though they seem perfect they really aren’t. They are reckless and adventurous. Sadly they don’t get married because he ends up dying later on, but I still think it’s a great movie. I don’t think your little girls will expect every man they meet to be “John Smith” I think they will want someone to protect them, and love them for who they are though, just like he did. Isn’t that what we want for our kids anyway?

 

 So maybe I went a little deep here, but I just don’t think little girls and boys will take from these movies that they need to be “perfect” for someone to love them. These characters are far from perfect yet they are loved anyway. There’s so much you could talk to your kids about after watching these movies, so much you could teach them. Also, if you’re taking the time to talk to them about the movies won’t you be able to help them understand what is really happening? These are just my thoughts on the matter and I wanted to share them with you. Hope you enjoyed reading how my brain thinks about such matters because I truly enjoyed writing it. Always remember that YOU are the parent and YOU need to decide what to let your kids watch, pray about it if you are unsure. 

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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For The Broke, Busy, And Singles.....

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 The month of February can be frustrating for some people, it’s the month of Valentine’s Day and well let’s face it, not all of us get to celebrate it the way we like. You’re single, broke, or too busy with work and kids. Let me be the first to tell you you’re not alone and it WILL be OKAY. Today I want to share a list of ideas for the single, broke, and overloaded girls out there to feel special on any day. I personally had a great Valentine’s Day even though we are broke as a crash site, so my first list will be for the broke girls out there.

 

I will start with what we did; we got each other a little gift and nice card. That’s it. KIDDING!!! Lol We did do that but we made the day special. We are too broke to go out so I just made sure my son was happy watching his movie when my husband came home. I had candles and music and made a romantic evening right here at home. You can make a nice dinner, maybe something you don’t have often and have some alone time. It’s easy and cheap. Almost free lol. Make it as “romantic” as you like, whatever suits you and your husband. <3 J

Another great idea is a moonlit walk in a nice park (free!!!) and a nighttime picnic under the stars. Even if you don’t have a park nearby you can just use your backyard! It’s romantic and sweet. Personal. A walk under the stars is great for some good conversation, and stealing some kisses!!! ;) Depending on what you’re into a night in playing board games or video games could be just what you need!! There are all kinds of ways to have free date nights. Get creative. Next let’s talk about some ideas for the girls that are just too busy for dates and romance.

Okay, so you have to clean, work, take care of kids ect. And there’s only so many hours in a day, but there’s always time for romance with your husband. Lunch breaks have been dates for me and my husband when we just didn’t get chances to be together, even when we were dating sometimes that’s the only time I could see him. Make that 1 hour count!! If your lunch breaks don’t match up put the kids to bed early and order take out and watch a movie or whatever is you guys thing. Just enjoy some alone time with the peace and quiet. Maybe take a day off work (if possible without lying about being “sick” lol) take a day to yourselves, if its housework keeping from getting to go out forget about it, just let the dishes stack up for later, the laundry stay unfolded. Go out and enjoy each other. You’re marriage or relationship is far more important than a spotless house!!! Trust me, no housework got done when my husband got home on Valentine’s Day, we spent time with each other instead! You’re never too busy for love!

 

Now, if you’re reading this and thinking “what about the singles? We need to feel special too!” don’t worry girl, I got you. Okay first off you don’t NEED a guy to make you feel special, yes it’s nice and awesome but you are already special. God made you special and He loves you very much (yes I just quoted Veggie tales)! Girl, go to the spa, get your hair done, have a girls night out, whatever makes you feel special. Just because you don’t have a guy doesn’t mean you can’t go out and have fun. Shoot I’ve even gone to the movies alone before and found it to be so fun and relaxing! Me and my bestie have had so many girl dates and so many laughs together that we didn’t need a “date” to feel special and have fun!

 

I really hope this was at least a little helpful and maybe whenever you want to feel special or have a date night you will find a way and be creative and work with what you have. There’s always a way to have fun no matter what your situation. J Hope you have a very blessed February!!

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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Who You Are

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Sometimes I believe we get caught up in who we are as mother’s and wives that we forget WHO we are. I know I do. Sometimes I feel like that’s all I am, just a mom, or just a wife, but that’s a huge lie. I keep trying and trying to do what I want to do, get a moment of quiet by myself and I become selfish, while I’m just trying to be just me. I forget that I am all these things. But, you know people say everything isn’t just black and white there’s grey in there. There’s a balance we have to find in our lives. Yes, I am a mom, wife, me, and a child of God. I am ALL those things. Not just one at a time. That’s my problem. I am trying to be so many separate things when they aren’t separate at all. (whaaattt? Light bulb moment) In trying to be all these different things I am actually losing myself in the frustration and anxiety of all these different things in my head that I have to be or I have to do, when in reality, it’s not a long list. All those things I am and have to be is ONE thing, ONE person. It’s what makes up who I really am, not separate parts of who I am. (Are you with me? Or am I just confusing? Lol)

 

So back to the balance part. God first, my husband second, my child third, and myself last. Sounds easy enough but there’s only so many hours in a day. I try to have my prayer and Bible reading first thing with my coffee in the mornings, but with a 1 year old that’s almost impossible. So, I make sure he has his milk first thing and that buys me time for prayer and Bible reading. While he plays, I try to read a novel or get chores done. When he’s watching a movie at night I try to spend time with my husband. (This usually includes playing WOW). You see it’s just all about balance and scheduling. You can be all of WHO YOU are every day. There’s no reason for all the stress that comes with trying to escape one thing to be another. Just be all of you, and make time for each aspect of who you are without losing another aspect of you. God has blessed you with all these different aspects of YOU, don’t try to change it or escape it. Embrace it. <3

 

This is where I’ve been, and I’m worn out, I’m tired, and exhausted. I cannot be 5 different people, I can only be ME. I’m thankful that God has blessed me so much, and I need to be embracing it and trusting Him and His word, and everything He teaches me. I hope that if you’re in a similar spot in life that you can take something from this and am encouraged. I pray that you will see you are who God made you to be and that’s a blessing.

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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4 Things NOT To Say To A Mom

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Here lately I’ve gotten so tired and frustrated with myself and the things people say just do not help. Can you feel me? I mean I already feel like I fail at most things, like I can’t catch up to the 20 million items on my to do list, like I will never fit back into a size 2 or 3 (1 is out of the question at this point) and yet people seem to think they know what to say when they should really keep quiet. So, let’s jump into my list of things you shouldn’t say to a mom (even if you think you know exactly how I should live my life). Some may be specific to a stay at home mom but I will specify. I also encourage you to add to the list in the comments if you have some of your own.

 

1. “Wow you sure have taken on some weight”

Okay, let me start by saying do not mention weight AT ALL to a mother, especially a new mother. I cannot not tell you how many times the first thing someone says to me is “wow you’ve gained weight” or “you’re not skinny anymore”, one of my least favorites is the one meant to be a compliment but instead only makes me feel worse “ You look better with the weight you’ve gained”. STOP. Pause. Hold up. I’m sorry but I didn’t know unhealthy was the new “look”. You see, I like to be fit and healthy and this body I got going on is not that. I already hate the way I look so why even mention it? I’m well aware that I am no longer a size 1 thank you, I do have a mirror. (I’m not that poor ;p ) On a side note if you are pregnant and EVERYONE tells you to eat more and eat for two, DO NOT LISTEN. Pregnancy is not an excuse for gluttony. Eat healthy, take your vitamins, and don’t be like me and listen to stupid advice. (Bonus what not to say to a pregnant woman lol) Rant over.

 

2. “Do you ever clean your house?”

This one is especially aggravating because they do not live in your home so it’s really no concern to them. But, a lot of times mothers are too busy wiping noses and changing diapers, feeding babies, staying up with a teething child, ect. To even stop and fold laundry or do dishes. Also, sometimes you have to decide do you clean the kitchen or play with your baby? Do you wash clothes or spend time with your husband? So please do not remind me I have 20 billion things to do, I already know.

 

3. “Why don’t you throw your kid in day care and get a job? Things would be easier and your kid could socialize.” (stay at home mom specific)

Can I just roll my eyes 20 times right now? Like, I’m doing what I was created to do, my responsibility. A mother’s “job” is to raise her children, to take care of them, to teach them. It is ONLY the parents responsibility to do those things. Who better than the parents to teach their kids what is right, how to live, and act. I believe God created mothers for that purpose. So MY JOB is exactly what I’m doing and it’s the BEST job I can have. Also, I’m not about to throw my kid off on people who don’t know my child or truly deeply care about him, and I’m not going to throw him in a room with a bunch of kids who’s parents do not teach their kids how to act. (yes I know, I’m very strongly opinionated, you don’t have to remind me) And my child doesn’t have to be in a classroom to socialize. My child can have friends at church and when he’s older with a homeschool group, he does and can socialize. While kids are in a classroom all day, my kid can be learning outside in the environment, he can have the freedom to go anywhere and do anything. I do not believe that would be holding him back, holding him back would be throwing in a classroom for hours. So please, next time you think you know how I should live my life and raise my child why don’t you keep quiet and just focus on your own, because we can figure out what’s best for US without everyone’s opinions. (don’t get all offended, just how I personally feel.)

 

4. “Do you work?” or “Where do you work now?”  

When I am asked this I seriously just stare at the person and think “I have a child! YES I work, I work 24/7 and get no sick days!!!!”. Of course what comes out of my mouth is, “I’m a stay at home mom”. Some people get it and say “Oh girl that is a JOB.” Others give that look like you’re lower than them or not living up to your potential, lol or like your just plain crazy. Why do people not understand that being a stay at home mom is a job, it’s what we are SUPPOSED to do. We are to raise up our children. Even if you aren’t a stay at home mom, you’re pretty much still working that mom job, so that’s two jobs. Please do not ask mothers that question like that. It’s just insulting. Quit making us feel like we aren’t amounting to anything when in reality we are doing something incredible. God has blessed us with these precious children and we should be honored to be the ones to raise them up for Christ.

 

I will stop at four, and I hope you will add some of your own in the comments. I needed to vent and I thought what better way? So vent yours in the comments and we can all share in this struggle of motherhood.

 

Keep being glamorous and always remember Proverbs 31,

Carlee, The Glamorous Mom.

 

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